I’m learning that friendship is rarely found on the convenient aisle. We are often asked to go out of our way, to stay up past our tired eyes, or to even go to restaurants we don’t particularly like. This is the deep and rooted part of friendship I’m just now getting to.

Much like building community with people around me, building friendship with the Lord surprisingly doesn’t look very different.

One day a few summers ago I was doing things around my house when a friend called me to see if I could come meet them at a gas station, they didn’t have any more cash for the week and were out of gas. I jumped in my car and was there in a few minutes. Afterwards we walked to a near by grocery store, bought some sushi and sat on the sidewalk outside.

This was an an incredible moment for me, of all the people this person could’ve called they chose me (which I wouldn’t have guessed). But to them I was safe, I was dependable. In return I felt needed, like I had a purpose, and made our friendship feel like a two way street.

This isn’t the way I’ve been approaching friendship with Jesus though. It was very much a one way street. It made me want to ask the Lord when was the last time he felt needed? When did I act on his dependance, on his safety?

Walking with the Lord, for most of us, will be the longest friendship we invest into our whole life. This entails many different seasons and levels of depth that we’ll go through on our journey. Here’s the beautiful thing though: this rarely comes without a good mess and he is not at all scared of it. You are choosing to trust and following trails you’ve never been on before, believing he will be present in the journey, show you the way, and encourage you when the terrain looks beyond your skill set.

Friendship with the Lord is a day in and day out process. I have believed that saying “yes” to the Lord looked like getting on a roller coaster and clinging on with white knuckles until the end.

“This scares me a lot, but I’m just going to keep trusting you”

“I dont’t understand why this lap bar is so far from my lap but I’m just going to keep trusting you.”

“This other kid just threw up all over me, but I’m just going to keep trusting you!”

This, does not build relationship with the Lord, and is actually fracturing trust with him instead of solidifying it. When he asked us to begin the journey we’re on he did not ask us to harbor our screams, and hard days. We believe that by “deflecting” the difficult we’re clinging to trust of his plan but instead we’re hurting our friendship. He wants to be present and involved in our process, just like our community does. With us on the days we don’t understand. When he asked you to say yes to following him, he did not intend to meet you on the other side of this season.

John 15:12

12 “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command you. 15 No longer do I call you servants, for the servant does not know what his master is doing; but I have called you friends, for all that I have heard from my Father I have made known to you. 16 You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you that you should go and bear fruit and that your fruit should abide, so that whatever you ask the Father in my name, he may give it to you. 17 These things I command you, so that you will love one another.


Shaina is doing the young adult thing, her normal week consists of working on her latte art, cooking meals, and spending as much time as she can in her garden. Shaina is a depth promoter and believes fully in the power of our authentic stories, no editing needed.